Thursday, April 30, 2015

When I wake up will I go to school?


Milosh asks me this question almost every evening. He has no clue how the days and nights etc work - when kids go for a nap - I don't think they know if they will wake up next day or just in a few hours.   Day light in late evenings throws him off and he refuses to sleep. Weekend throws him off - so poor kids they have no idea (for a long time) what time/ day/ month it is. Imagine leading your life without knowing that! We as grown ups will probably freak out in minutes. To me this indicates how open these little people are - and naturally accommodating  of every moment and generally open to all possibilities. But also helpless!

When he was younger he could not complaint - so now I am kind of glad I know what's going on in his mind. Even if he complains when coming out of the bed that he doesn't want to wake up -and doesn't want to go to school, I feel good that I know :) Now I can make informed (but carefully planned) exceptions. Usually we can trick him into feeling happy pretty soon - lets see who brushes teeth first, who goes downstairs first, lets surprise daddy by getting dressed up before him etc etc. He is usually normal by the time he leaves.

And his school is really nice, the teachers are good, he has made good friends he looks forward to seeing.

But on occasion he does tell me on a serious note - "Mommy, I don't want to go to school everyday" - and I always think to myself - thats completely fair. Its really good that he is very much in touch with exactly what he wants/ needs. He likes his school - just doesn't want to go everyday. I would love to be able to design a world that accommodated or rather ran on our different moods and feelings; instead of timed schedules.

The reality is that we are moving in an opposite direction,  most definitely in USA. I have had well meaning friends and parents ask - why do kids have spring break, mid-winter break etc? Kind of implying that the schools/ day cares are kind of slacking and not accommodating our work schedules.  That to me is pretty sad - because kids need a lot of free flowing time - when they don't have to wake up at a certain time, when they don't have to follow any rules, and in Milosh's words "do whatever I want" If it was not for my sabbatical I would have thought the same - because to working parents breaks mean plan an alternate care - which takes a lot of planning and time. Looking back I feel awful that my son went to day care at the age of 7 months - and I never knew about these breaks. I am so glad that schools have these breaks! And from what I have read Europe's culture is very supportive of more vacations. Rest of the world needs to catch up - we all need to get in tune with ourselves! Just like kids!



Monday, April 27, 2015

Mommy and me biking - Project Tandem - Kenny G to the rescue


I love biking when its sunny - we also have the pleasure of living very close to one of the most beautiful biking trails in US (See rankings here) - I cannot get enough of the Sammamish River Trail. So of course I want to take Milosh with me - partly so he is with me; and partly so he starts to love this stuff like me - so he will give me company! Thats how was conceived - Project Tandem.
I have had all kinds of biking solutions to ride with your child - and was waiting for the time when he would be ready for tandem biking. Simple - right?! Read on.

Quick history in pictures: Summer 2012 - This was the very first solution we had so we could bike together:

It was good - but it still seemed touch to plan through food and naps for a time that would work. There was this one day when my baby just turned around and wanted to hug me and won't go back to the green seat. It took me some time to realize that he was really cold. Of course he was too young to speak or communicate. Felt so awful, can never forget :( Yet - I loved this biking solution and so did my baby - 'coz I could kiss him, talk to him and have him really close to me!

We only rode a handful of times in the green seat. Next we moved to our second solution; and this time I got smarter and got a second hand trailer (Summer 2014). As practical as it was, Milosh just didn't get enough action for himself. There were only so many times I could trick him into coming along right - and getting him to sleep - so I could ride longer. The only way to get him to come into the trailer was if we had another kid to share the ride. We really enjoyed this - esp when Amaira or Rhea would join! It was fun - but it gets a little tiring to haul two kids and then you have to plan a long time in a park with climbers. Its great fun to listen to two kids talk in their natural environment though - because they really forget they have a grown up listening to them. There is one conversation I remember - Milosh and Rhea - saw a biker with a shirt with hawaiian flowers.

M - "Did you see that shirt?" R - "Yeah" M - "It would be nice to have a shirt with cars on it" R - "Yeah" M - "Do you want me to get you a shirt like that?" R - "Yeah, but I want a half sleeve shirt and matching shorts with it" M-"Okay" M-"Mommy, we need to get a shirt for Rhea" (That was the end of his fairly new gentlemanliness)



Spring 2015 - Now our little biker has learnt to make choices - now he would only bike on his own little orange bike. This Spring we got the training wheels repaired - and now he goes really fast. Once we went to Alki beach to try out a bike - and the lady at the store was very impressed what a boy less than 4 years of age could do. She said that age kids can barely mount or pedal. Milosh is a natural. He has been riding tricycles in his day care every chance that he got. Now he can ride fast - and learn fast. One major fall later - he understood what brakes mean - and he has since done a great job of mastering gentle slopes!

One day he talked me into taking him to the trail - while I jogged next to him. He must have been the youngest rider on the trail. He barely knew his lefts and rights - and people on that trail can be really fast. He did a really good job for the most part.  But it was a lot of hard work for me to help him be on the right side of the road - and this one time - he made a dangerous and confident move from right to left - making a fast biker brake and yell at us "Watch out little rider"-  so I am not doing that again in the near future.
Of course that did not prevent Milosh from asking him to take his bike and my bike to the trail - every single time I ask him to come biking with me! For a couple of times there were huge battles about that - when I kept asking him to try the tandem bike and he continued to want his orange bike.

Finally the problem got solved- the orange bike's chains fell off (ha ha ha ha) - if only I had thought of it myself - I would have done it a long time ago. So finally he agreed. We made it to the trail! It was fairly easy to connect the tandem co-rider to my bike and there we started. We watched other families riding just like us, we saw the ducks, the mountains, the trees. 

It was really awesome - for about 5 minutes. After which - every 2 min or so later, he needed a brake for water, or to collect stones/ flowers/ sticks or to remove the flag from the bike. Of course he had to experiment all the directions in which he could move - and if he can put his legs on one side (which by the way makes the bike shake like crazy) or how long he can drag his boots on the road while riding before mommy screams etc etc etc. I don't even know everything he does because I can't see him when I am riding. Once a lady pointed out that he was putting his hands under the fender - probably trying to touch the moving wheels. On hindsight I should have expected this - and not really lose it. Oh - the joys of riding with a toddler :) 

Finally we turned around (after we reached Rhea's old home - and I knew it might be hard for him to continue for too long) - and then I played some Kenny G on my phone. Somehow that made everything perfect - I was way more calm and we made the return journey without stopping or falling! He made cute observations - he saw a really big tree - and said - oh, thats even bigger than daddy! I love how kids categorize almost everything as "daddy size", "mommy size" and "child size" :) Anyway - he did mention that he can climb the tree - but daddy can not. I was reminded of the stuff Jack Canfield says in his books about how kids naturally believe very lofty things and its only with time and social conditioning we stop to believe in them. Anyway, I hope Milosh continues to believe this for a long time! 

After the ride, I started to thank him a lot for coming with me on the while bike. And he said, Mommy, I really liked it! The picture above represents the latter half of the journey ;) And I really hope he does not grow out of this too soon! 




Beach day




Nothing in the world gives Milosh more pleasure than playing with water and sand - he can spend hours. Nothing in the world gives me more joy to just hang out, watch and may be play :) I had originally thought of continuing to listen to my audio book - and just be around him - but I realized making a castle for turtles is way more fun! The new sand toys  are declared a success! Joys of a beautiful warm day!


Milosh making a swimming pool and a beach for turtles. The turtles' abode also had a washing machine and some cars!



Milosh was getting (the freezing) water from the beach. He had to do it really really fast - because the sand was drinking up the water ;) 

We had a tea party for the turtles - and they were all served some "dirty chai"

Pee wee soccer Spring 2015 - Go Sparrows!



The new season has started!




Wednesday, April 15, 2015

Goodnight moon - Milosh's first field trip from school


Today I was completely blown away by the amazing production "Goodnight Moon" by Seattle's Children's Theater. It was my first trip to the place - and I am going to be a fan - taking Milosh to every production that they have. In this blog I will try to separate out the cute little aspects of our field trip - and then go in detail about the play itself.

First about our trip: I made Anuj sign up my name as a chaperone as soooon as I read there was an opportunity for parents to join in on their school trip! I got lucky being one of the 2 parents who get to help the class make this trip to the theater. The excitement in the class was palpable as the days were approaching. I usually don't tell Milosh about any upcoming exciting events too much in advance - but now that he can contain his excitement and only asks me about a dozen times I have started telling him. Besides, two days before the play Miss Gina had given him the brand new Living Montessori t-shirt which all kids wear to the trip - so he knew. The day before he asked when are we going to the play many times - even though my answer was the same. He said - but tell me - when will we go, will we go when its 49?  (that's his concept of time right now - he meant bring it on - I know I have to wait a long time - and 49 is probably the biggest number he could associate with time)
 Of course he wore the t-shirt to the school the day before - it was too exciting for him not to :) - and of course his teachers helped to change his mind and help him into other clothes. The night before - he again asked - mostly because he loved to hear it again and again - "tomorrow when I wake up we will go in a bus?" I said yes. "yay! And you will come too with us?" "yay!! because i really love you!"

The morning of the event - I was told kids were up at 6 am so they didn't miss the bus - the bus as you can imagine was the bigger reason for excitement than the play itself. The kids were all queued up before the bus at 9:15 sharp - I was immediately enveloped in soft innocent voices - tiny soft hands holding my hand as we boarded the bus. Few clicking sounds of seat belts and a few rounds of "I can do it myself" back and forth with "are you ready to be helped now?" later - we were all set to leave. I loved how the teachers gently announced about using indoor voices - but their smiles gave away that excitement was going to rule today. Some snacks were handed to the kids - and they were all chatting and eating excitedly. Every bridge and tunnel on the way was loudly greeted by the entire bus of 3-5 yr olds. It was their special day too - their day to be noticed and cheered more than space needle even!

Milosh went back and forth between sticking with his buddies and then sticking with his mommy. He went and sat with his buddies (fought tooth and nail to fight with them is more like it). I sat with the soft and quiet little girl Aneeka. I was prepared to be referred to as "Milosh's mommy" but not "Aneeka's mommy" :) Anyway, we reached and the kids got the first row! The stage looked immaculate - as if you had literally stepped inside the book - every detail from the red balloon to the mittens - was done perfectly. We were a bit early but the kids waited very patiently.

When the lights turned off - the kids were a little scared. It reminded me of the time when I had gone to watch "Ice Age" with a 5 yr old - and he had found the movie to be scary :) Its hard to imagine all the things in a kids play that make the kids scared.
The play started with a scene of bunny trying to sleep - more like his mom trying to put him to bed. The kids were all giggling at all the right moments and completely got into the zone as the characters sang and danced. The book had come alive in ways I could never imagine! There were creative stories behind every little thing in the room - narrated with amazing craftsmanship by the crew. The kids were absorbing every minute detail on the play - the scenes behind the paintings, the story of the tooth fairy, the lamp moving in a funny way. Some kids were getting scared with the loud sounds of the bears - poor kids - they actually were scared with teeth chattering! But just for a few moments. After a couple of acts there was a break - which was short and uneventful. After the break the play again picked momentum - but the kids were starting to get tired - it was their lunch time - and the last 15 or so min the kids got a bit restless - but still very patient. As the bunny was proceeding towards falling asleep, the kids were starting to roll on their seats also. I think the whole setting of night, with moon and stars and the lullabies had a powerful effect on them - and they were starting to relate to the bunny - and fell asleep themselves :) There was a little interactive part after the crew was introduced -  and then we all stepped out for a group picture. The ride back was a little bit dull - as the kids were very hungry and very tired. As much as they liked it, 3.5 hours was a lot for their age - especially coupled with the travel times and waiting times. Milosh who had started the journey not being anywhere near me, was clinging hard to me now - and wanted to go home and not stay for the rest of the day.

After Milosh and I had lunch, he fell asleep in the car. The moment he woke up - he wanted to go back to the good night moon :) There is a compelling case for me to take him there again - but I think I will take him to another play instead. Now that he is almost 4, so many things are opening up. It feels like such a huge gift to be able to watch classic stories played so well - by live talented people! And I think we will have the opportunity to watch at least 6 such plays in an entire year - a huge unforgettable gift!

I am pasting the synopsis of the play from the website - just for our memory (although I doubt he will forget :)) and I will try to hunt for pictures from the net - since photography was not allowed.







As little Bunny goes into his Great Green Room, the mantle clock announces it is seven o’clock and time for bed. The kind Old Lady reads to him from the book, Goodnight Moon. She reads of the wonderful things there, and Bunny says hello to them all: the telephone, the red balloon, the cow jumping over the moon, the three bears on chairs, two little kittens with a pair of mittens, clocks, socks, a little toy house, a mouse, a comb and a brush, and a bowl full of mush.
Bunny wants to play with each one. He still has lots of energy! The Old Lady whispers “hush” and takes up her knitting in the rocking chair. She tells Bunny to say his prayers and go to sleep. Bunny closes his eyes in his bed, but strange noises capture his attention. The Old Lady playfully tucks him in tight and wishes him sweet dreams.
Bunny, however, is still not ready for sleep, and asks for his dolls. The Old Lady brings all of them to his bed and sings him a goodnight lullaby. She goes back to her knitting. Now the fire in the fireplace, the rocking chair, the kittens and even Mouse keep Bunny awake. Bunny asks for a glass of water. As the Old Lady fetches one, more sounds of clocks and animals arouse Bunny’s imagination and he gets out of bed.
The Old Lady returns with water and asks who has mussed up Bunny’s bed. He answers, “nobody,” and they sing about this famous character no one ever sees who seems to take the blame for so many things. Bunny starts playing with the balloon string and somehow he and Mouse end up entangling the Old Lady in her yarn. She demands that they stop this pandemonium!
Bunny asks about the picture on the wall, The Runaway Bunny. The Old Lady explains that it shows Bunny’s grandmother fishing while Bunny’s father splashed as a little boy in the river. He had told his mother he wanted to run away. Bunny and the Old Lady sing about a boy who wants to run away and an old lady who will always know how to find him and hug him tight.
Bunny seems soothed and ready to settle into bed now. The Old Lady turns off the lamp, says “goodnight,” and leaves the Great Green Room. However, the lamp turns itself on, more strange sounds emerge, and the Moon rises higher into the sky. What’s more, the picture of the cow jumping over the Moon comes to life. The Cat, the Dog, the Dish and the Spoon show up to cheer on Clarabelle the Cow, but her jump falls flat.
Bunny is wide awake now as the entire room seems to come alive with lights and sounds. The telephone rings for Bunny and a scary growl comes over the line. From out of their picture, the Three Bears enter the room, singing and dancing. They do a bunny hop with Bunny and conclude with a tap dance and a game of musical chairs. The Bears try to get Bunny to go to sleep, promising to return the next night, but Bunny has noticed that he has a loose tooth. Mama Bear ties the knitting yarn to his tooth and the other end to a doorknob. She slams the door and Bunny, proud and relieved, shows us his first lost tooth!
Once again, Clarabelle the Cow and her friends come to life in their picture. Bunny tries to show them his tooth, but they sing a song celebrating Clarabelle’s jumping prowess. Despite this encouragement, her second attempt falls flat.
Bunny climbs into bed. The bed and its covers seem to want to envelop him. Escaping, he goes to the toy house which has lit up again with strange chattering. Mouse tells him that some new folks have just moved in. Bunny shows her his tooth and they both sing about the excitement of losing and growing back teeth.
The Old Lady comes back to try to put a stop to the recurring pandemonium. Noticing Bunny’s lost tooth, she gets some paper to wrap it up for the Tooth Fairy. Mouse and Bunny do their best to tape the tooth up without taping themselves together and the Old Lady puts it under Bunny’s pillow. She hushes everyone and everything in the room and leaves to make some tea, expecting Bunny to be asleep on her return.
Bunny and Mouse only pretend to sleep, hoping to remain awake to see the Tooth Fairy. Their play snoring soon turns into actual snoring, however. Tooth Fairy takes Bunny’s tooth and leaves a dime along with a song.
Bunny and Mouse wake up and notice the toy house has lit up once again. Opening it up, they see that it is the Tooth Fairy’s workshop where fairies are turning teeth into stars. Mouse sings of the shining North Star that leads wanderers safely home as Bunny watches the starry night sky outside his window.
Left to his own devices again, Bunny spends time exercising his imagination, turning the Old Lady’s rocking chair into a car, a plane and even a horse in the Wild West. Clarabelle’s friends return and she gets ready for a third attempt to jump over the Moon. Her friends tell her to believe in herself and sing of the positive attitude necessary for success. This time Clarabelle jumps all the way over the Moon to the applause of all.
Now the Moon speaks to Bunny, saying he will shine gently down on him and always be his friend. Bunny notices how quiet things have become. The dolls on his bookcase sing him a lullaby. The Old Lady comes back and Bunny says he is still not tired, but she convinces him it really is time to say goodnight. Bunny says goodnight to Mouse, to the Old Lady and to all the strange and wonderful things in the Great Green Room. And, of course, to the Moon.