I love to take you to fun places - beaches, parks, some kids aquatic place, gym class, music class, soccer class - you name it! I myself love to go to fun (for me) places - in fact I constantly struggle with how to pace it - so I am not driving myself nuts by planning for one too many fun things. Its almost like I have a huge fun backlog and need to go on having more and more fun. Fortunately, with you I have been pacing it just right (well, so far at least ;)) But when you grow up, and find yourself suffering from the "fun syndrome", you can almost certainly tell, you got it from me.
Your dad likes to have fun too - but the pace and choices are sometimes just a little different. I still remember when your dad was going to visit me in Seattle for the first time, I had made an elaborate plan of the top things to see, do, eat etc - and your dad said, I just want to be home with you! I have to admit that idea was a huge eye-opener for me! I didn't think it was possible to visit a place and not rush from checklist point A to B. So I have gotten a lot better about pacing ourselves in vacations and not obsessing about including every can't-be-missed thing in our itinerary. But left to me (like the recent London trip I did with you, Rhea and Vibha aunty), I will always err on the side of cramming a lot; and I see myself doing that for a few more years at least. After that I might focus on the quality of fun instead of quantity. Gotta be true to myself ;)
Anyway, back to you - you are definitely showing healthy signs of the fun syndrome; you love going to fun places - in fact, on weekends when we are driving around, you keep checking where we are going next; you are almost ready to throw a tantrum if you figure we are going home. Now that we can talk and reason with you, we tell you, you need to take a nap. And you immediately ask "And then you'll take me to a fun place?". Sometimes in the morning you wake up and declare - its no school day, yay! but after seeing that we are not really impressed; you say - "after school you'll take me to a fun place?"
Now the good news is - very simple things are fun for you - for our own satisfaction, we might take you to fancy places for fun, but you are happy to walk/ bike around the block, get mail from the mail box or even make a trip to a nearby grocery store - these are still exciting and new enough for you at this stage :) There are days when we are engrossed in our own computers or own things, and you are happy to make a day of jumping on the couch or rolling on the carpet. We have also not hesitated from tagging you along on some of our fun things - e.g. we take you with us for movies (as long as they are not violent etc)
But given a choice, you do prefer to go to places! "Out" was one of the first few words you picked up. You didn't even know the word inside. [The one time that you wanted to be inside was when we were doing firecrackers for Diwali outside and you were really scared of the sound. You communicated you wanted to go inside by pointing inside the house and saying "I want to go outside" - the other outside ;)] You need an ongoing supply of entertainment. You will often ask - "and then what we will do", "and then what we will do next".
I still remember Pooja was visiting from NYC and we decided to meet for dinner; and you were with us; and then when we dropped her, you were so disappointed - It was late in the night, but "where are we going now", "what we will do next".
Once we had to tell you we will take you to pumpkin patch next; and then you fell asleep in the car. And when you found yourself awake at home and not pumpkin patch, oh man - it was a very challenging evening.
You are still young, and the current culture is for parents to take kids from one organized play to another (as the author of book "Play" puts it) - the "onus" is on us to find a series of fun things for you :) It reminds me of the phrase "naach basanti" (from the movie Sholay). Kudos to the insatiable desire for fun :) - that's the way to be!
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